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Old Nov 19, 2013, 01:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Little Lulu View Post
Years ago I voluntarily took several months off due to anxiety issues. I thought it would help me feel better and initially it did (in all honesty, I also had some guilt about this, too). However, going back to work was very difficult and, ironically, I had a load of anxiety about it.

I wonder if a brief reduction in your work schedule might be an option? You would remain in the flow but get somewhat of a break. Just an idea ...
The boss did mention something close to this though he didn't put it into those terms - Though we're an office of 3, we're divided into two different functions where the girl who works with us is meant to flit between the 2. My supervisor usually utilises her for most of his side of things though (and I haven't made a complaint about this) and our Boss I think realises this... he's going to try and implement better time management so that she is freed up to help me more.

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Originally Posted by it_will_get_better View Post
I am on a sick note for "reduced hours" and "amended duties" (UK) at the moment. It has really helped me. I will ask for another one as I am not sure I can deal with work full time at the moment. My job is quite flexible though.
I haven't heard of that, might be something to explore... thank you for the heads up!

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Originally Posted by Clara22 View Post
Hi,
I do not know about taking time off regarding MH issues, but this is my story. Last year I was suggested to take time off because of my health in general. I had a lot of stress because the position I held was with fair enough responsibilities and troubles. In addition to my physical disability, I have PKD. Stress is supposed to be a trigger for cyst grow. In fact, the last doctor before the one that suggested taking time off had told me to look for another job. It is not easy to find another job when you are disabled and a foreign visitor. And, like you, when I was suggested taking time off, I felt my supervisor would not like me taking time off because this would mean overloading for her. In addition, in the institution I work for people do not take long periods of time off usually. So, I did not do it. Then, I had to travel overseas for a long mission in several countries (all undeveloped countries) . When I came back I gota n unknown infection. Doctors could never find the source of infection, but I developed an inflamatory response that almost killed me. I was very sick for around six monts. Doctors told me to call my family and have somebody to come to the US because my condition was critical. And my supervisor and everybody accommodated. I feel that I had pushed myself too hard. My defense system was very low because of my stress and a perhaps silly infection produced an overreaction of my body. Or it was just the stress, because they never found the source.
I think the lesson I learned is that sometimes things get big in my head, I elaborate a lot of scenarios (terrible scenarios) and then I refrain from doing stuff (like taking time off, etc). Then sometimes reality obligues me to take that step, and things do not result as terrible as I imagine and I should have taken that step earlier. I could have died because of the way I elaborate.
OK, I do not know if this is similar to your situation, but I wanted to share this with you. I wish you the best
Thanks Clara for the in-depth post, that must have been horrendous

I agree with you on the "sometimes things get big in my head, I elaborate a lot of scenarios (terrible scenarios) and then I refrain from doing stuff (like taking time off, etc)." part... I always try to think about the big picture... but that usually is blinkered in the sense that I don't consider what it means for me properly. I worry about the implications of things and they can branch of into more and more implications as a result.

Perhaps I should give in to the persuasion of those that have my best interests at heart... but I'm a stubborn sod, so I need to know it's best for me before committing to something. I'll talk to the Dr about it at my next appointment (this Monday coming).

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Remember you self certify for the first 7 days (this includes weekends and other days you might not normally work) so I would suggest that as a good starting point to figure out how you feel. Then take yourself to the doctor and discuss it further. It may be that just doing fewer days or shorter hours could be beneficial. Or a few more weeks off completly.
I am aware of self certifying... but as a rule, I prefer not to... I always feel guilty for being off unless it's backed up by something saying that I should be off... in part it helps put my mind at rest that I'm not making it up. Not sure if that makes sense... but I'm the sort of person that has gone into work with the flu, having broken a rib on the way to work... and having kidney stones.
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Thanks for this!
Clara22