Dear Patagonia
I am sorry you have such a predicament
. I do realize how hard is it to keep up appearances outside,while suffering inside. I know I am not alone . The reason I logged to this site was desperation .i have nobody to talk to (I can't tell my one or two only friends because they know him,I can't tell me parents or brother -it will destroy them,and I definitely not my in- laws who live with us) .I needed to talk it out and maybe believe that I am not that bad and worthless. By no mean I ment to be annoying or selfish .
I want you to know and believe one thing :You Are Very Important person.you r kind , giving, flexible woman who deserved to be loved and cherished ,appreciated and respected . I do not care about showing respect in public and public ideas for my marriage ,I wish you happiness , to find yourself again , self which you somehow neglected all this years to promote your H image.
Like you said nobody can tell us what to do ,stay or leave., but whatever you decide - respect and love yourself ,cal back your inner You
Good luck and best wishes