The seems to be a super fine line between the two and complete loss of control. At what point are expectations too much and at what point are they too little? How many lost battles mean you have lost control and how many things do they have control over before you've lost control? And how on earth do you enforce the rules without physical struggles and raising your voice and If you are able to, how do you keep your kids from rebelling later on and not resenting you? How do you earn their absolute respect so that they want to mind in the first place even through teenager-hood? And somebody please tell me there is hope for me when i can't even keep the house clean? Oh and does anybody have tips on having the energy in the first place?