Have you asked your T this question?

I agree with others that for each person it is different. For a person who believes that asking the T a question is scary or conflictual or something awful, then practicing asking the T questions is part of the work of therapy. For a person who doesn't express feelings or can't even name them, then identifying one's feelings is part of the work of therapy. I think a big part of it is being engaged in the process (not sitting passively on the couch and answering "I don't know" to everything the T asks instead of trying to look inside and discern answers) and willing to try new things. I have tried tons of things my Ts have suggested even if they seemed pointless or dumb at first. Sometimes they did help and sometimes they actually did end up being dumb. I try to be "game" for what T suggests, because he's been at the job of helping people a long time, so maybe he knows a little.... Today at my therapy, I was not very game for what my T was suggesting. I gave resistance, as they say. LOL. There is always next time.

Freewilled, it sounds like you are trying very hard to make progress. Maybe it's not all just flailing but some benefit too. I hope you can talk to T to get more clarity. Or be OK with the uncertainty.