I started going to a psychologist & about 1 year into our every other week sessions, she suggested the DBT group that was getting to it's starting point again.....I went to the DBT group for 2 years & this whole last year have continued on with the DBT "next step group" which keeps us focused on remembering the skills we learned....& my private psychologist has her own book she likes to use for DBT which I like better also.....& we seriously work on the detailed issues I'm dealing with that are too intense for group therapy....

I will NOT take meds either because of all the bad side effects I've had & now that I'm living alone I don't trust the experiences I had with the side effects & living completely alone.....so it's important to have the skills that I have gotten from the DBT group & things that I've come up with while learning those skills & how to apply them to my life......

Think you might want to find a new T & specify when talking to them to figure out if you really want them to start with...express that you EXPECT for them to help you learn working skills that you have never learned & desperately need to overcome the issues you are dealing with.

For almost 13 years I went to psychologists who just sat there & listened to me talk....I got nothing out of that....so it's been very enlightening & a blessing to have encountered the DBT.....it's made a huge difference in my life along with many other things that have happened like leaving my H after 33 years & moving 2100 miles away from him to a place where I didn't know anyone to be able to re-establish my own life.....these last 6 years have been a challenge, but a wonderful outcome overall.