Well ED sucks, and to be honest with you, I've had ED. When I say that I've had ED, what I should be telling you is that I've had ED with certain women. Like "Yoda" said, I believe that it's an incompatible issue. For example, with some women, I could preform extremely well, and with others... well... limp city.

I don't know your partner, but maybe she means that she enjoys everything about the relationship, but after a year now the only thing thats missing is a ****. And so, that's the only thing missing, so that's all she cares about at this moment... But then again, maybe I'm giving her too much credit. If that's the case, maybe you should part ways.

As far as the vanilla thing goes, I'm not into freaky sex and if that makes me vanilla so be it. And to top it off, if I had a freaky partner, I don't think I would be able to perform as well either.

I hope this helps.