Only those who don't understand would suggest you "just" want attention. You NEED attention, imo, of the good kind. The stress you are experiencing is partly from the family; why should your reaction require less attention then their reactions (for which you are trying to adjust?) They need to also consider how you need help and they need to be a part of the solution.

Sometimes we have to speak up for ourselves, for our own best interest. Asking a counselor for assistance in coping with this stress is a good, adult thing to do. I hope you can find that inner strength to ask for it.

TC!