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Originally Posted by just_some_girl
This very much describes a feeling I've had in similar circumstances/context, with my T, but I wouldn't have known how to word it! 'Instant quicksand' - EXACTLY! I definitely think it has to do with attachment and 'infant stuff'.
During a massive rupture with T when we didn't speak for several weeks and she no longer felt 'there', I related to Goldie Hawn's character, Helen, in 'Death Becomes Her'... (know the one?!) 'I have a hole in my stomach!!'
Just wanted to say I relate, and that I think you did great to recognise the trigger like that and discuss it with your T before you left  |
Thanks, jsg. Yes, the quicksand feeling is something I've described to my T a lot, especially when it's concerning feelings about her. Whenever I realized she was disappointing me, or couldn't be who I wanted her to be, those feelings would come over me and I'd feel like I was sinking...into quicksand. Instantly!! Yes, T said it has to do with attachment and my wish to merge with her (to my mother in the past).
I used to love Goldie Hawn but didn't see that movie. I know what you mean, though.
