i think everyone processes things in their own way and i'm sure your T realizes this. i doubt there is one right way to emotionally work through our painful histories. also, there can be layers of processing a painful incident. at first you may feel one emotion about the incident or not much at all and then later you may feel emotions you know logically were there but just weren't feeling yet. i've heard anger is considered a secondary emotion. meaning that behind it is more emotion like fear and then behind that fear maybe is the hurt. it's that whole peeling of the onion people talk about. please know you're doing just fine where you are at.