After giving this some thought, I think that the best way to get the therapist to help you to understand what the *work* means to you is to ask:

"What are the the things that you think I should be doing to help myself."

Because we are in therapy to help ourselves. We are seeking the help of a professional to do that.

Your therapist may need to give that some thought, and ask them to do just that.

It may get at the essence of your therapy.