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Originally Posted by growlithing
I wouldn't believe her if she did anyway. Or I would believe her, but I'd need her to reconfirm that she still loves me everyday because love was such a conditional thing for me growing up.
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And that's why it wouldn't ultimately help if she said it. It would simply create a need for a quick fix that only lasts so long, then you need another fix. It would make love and caring conditional with her, too.
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Originally Posted by growlithing
She has said "people here love you had you need to learn to feel that love without questioning it" but it isn't nearly the same as if she said that she loves me directly.
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No, it's not the same. It's better. Being told you are loved doesn't necessarily mean anything, for the reasons listed above. SHOWING you love and caring is another thing altogether. She wants you to observe the ways in which she shows you she cares rather than expecting her to tell you.
Think about it. If she shows you she cares, you don't need her to tell you - you can see it for yourself. If she doesn't show you she cares, why would you believe it if she SAID she did?
She's encouraging you to trust your own opinions and recognise caring instead of relying on someone else to tell you whether or not to feel cared for.