I'm so sorry that you were triggered, by the telephone call from your mother. I recognize the trigger that the family can be. For me it is a difficult thing, they trigger me a lot. And like what you say, if i would tell them that it will be a big drama. In therapy, I am trying to find a good way to have contact with them which is good for both. For now that is that I take distance.

You have taken a good step, by indicating that you want to have contact once a week. That you have done that for yourself, you can be proud of that! It is a start, your parents will also have to get used to this new way of contact. I think you handled it very well by saying that you want to 'practice to be an adult'. Therefore you have ensured that there will be no drama and problems. Your mother even thought it was a good idea, from there you can work together on a new form of contact.

Think about what you want, what will work for you? discuss that with your parents, so that it is also clear to them.

Bloem