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Originally Posted by BLUEDOVE
A huge help would be to learn assertiveness responses to remarks. For "You have water",the
assertive agreement phrase would be,"Your right,
I do have water!" This,and other stock phrases like
that are in a book called:" When I say no,I feel guilty," by Manuel J. Smith. It's out of print,but you
should get it in Alibris on net. Please do get this,it
will save you enormous pain and misery.There are
actual examples from real life,so it's easy to understand. Let me know if you get it ok.
Respect,
BLUEDOVE
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Thank you, I believe I will look into the book. I just usually feel a lot of shame and can't think of anything to say until later. By that time, I am too embarrassed to bring it up because I know it's my problem more than hers. Could she have handled it better? Definitely! I'm actually believing I might bring it up to her, but do not know her reactions well enough and afraid she wouldn't understand or will lecture me. But I don't know what else I can do, because I do not want to feel uncomfortable with her for months like I did he last time it happened with another group manager.