I'm just wondering if anyone else is in this situation.

We have our issues anyways (crazy ex, me adjusting to step-kids, both have baggage from previous abusers, etc), but is anyone here dealing with having their spouse working for the Federal Gov't. As in security detail, lots of hush hush, investigative, I can't be in on details type of job.

I'm totally ok with him having this job, he loves it, he's happy at it, it's great for us financially, and I know how he got the job so it's good. He used to have a job that allowed him to work from home, Monday-Friday, and we always ALWAYS had the weekends together. Now, not so much.

It's challenging, because it's less time with us together due to he can be called away at any point on assignment, either in the area or out of our area. He finds it hard because it's hard to call me/text me when he's away (he does his best, because he worries about me), and he misses me and the kids.

I already know my personality dictates that I'd be a HORRIBLE military wife, or the type of person that would have to deal with my partner being away for long periods of time. I'm lucky because it's very rarely a week at a time, so that's something I'm super grateful for.

If there are any of you out there, how do you deal with this sort of thing? How do you manage to try to actually plan things to do as a couple when they are called away for work randomly?

I keep thinking once we move from where we are it'll help a lot. We're hoping to move to the outskirts of the city, where we'll have our own home. Right now I have very few friends were I am now, and there is very little to do. Even tho I'm getting MUCH better, weekends are still rough for me once and a while, since the kids are with their mom on the weekends.