I am sorry, Tomi.. all you can do is except the responsibilty for your actions and your actions alone. you cant change the past, all you can do is make changes to ensure the future will be better. you CAN NOT except responsibilty for their actions. no matter how easy it may be to assume the responsibility of it being all your fault!!! it isnt.... you know deep in your heart that it isnt just one person's doing... everyone had a hand in it in one way or another.

some one once told me that we must let hatred go for it will comsume us inch by inch..
No one is perfect... as they say "let he who is without sin, cast the first stone"