narcissm, which happens to the best of us, I suppose. I think of it as a coping mechanism for what is going on in our lives. But I can tell he's been speaking with various people, perhaps even legal counsel. I told him the other nite, I don't care, even though I do desperately, tho I shouldn't, he's put up with a lot, and gotten myself in a bad place where I'm really dependent on him . Was thinking for me and for others I know, even if he doesn't leave and we are reasonably happy, def time for plans A,B, C, for coping, surviving, and being happy. I just didn't see it before!