Welcome to PC, Joe. Were I you I would go to the library and check out some of Barbara Sher's books, http://www.barbarasher.com/index.htm especially I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was. Her other books are equally good too though, Wishcraft was first but It's Only Too Late If You Don't Start Now is enjoyable also.

Your description of yourself reminds me of me when I was in my 20's and early 30's. You also might want to read Dr. Clay Tucker-Ladd's online book http://www.psychologicalselfhelp.org/ he checks in here in the Self-Help forum below too.