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Originally Posted by tinyrabbit
And that's why it wouldn't ultimately help if she said it. It would simply create a need for a quick fix that only lasts so long, then you need another fix. It would make love and caring conditional with her, too.
No, it's not the same. It's better. Being told you are loved doesn't necessarily mean anything, for the reasons listed above. SHOWING you love and caring is another thing altogether. She wants you to observe the ways in which she shows you she cares rather than expecting her to tell you.
Think about it. If she shows you she cares, you don't need her to tell you - you can see it for yourself. If she doesn't show you she cares, why would you believe it if she SAID she did?
She's encouraging you to trust your own opinions and recognise caring instead of relying on someone else to tell you whether or not to feel cared for.
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It's because I want something to hold on to at the end of the day when I re-analyze everything. I can feel the love in the moment that she looks at me, but the minute she leaves and I want to feel loved again, I start to think that maybe I didn't read her right and the love I felt was a false production of my own mind and she doesn't actually care. If she said "I love you", then I at least have that to use as evidence that she does even if the words are near meaningless to me. That and physical touch. She pats me on the back and I feel cared for for hours. Easy things I can quickly identify as evidence.