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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I think what you're expressing is about object constancy. Hearing the words, in that case, won't be any more tangible than your memory of her looking at you. You would probably analyse them in a way that would discredit the power you think they'd have. The fact that you can experience and trust her caring during sessions is fantastic. I think Scarlet's idea is a really good one: parents give their children transitional objects, especially when they go to sleep, for a similar reason--it addresses that empty insecurity/fear. Building object constancy is a process that waxes and wanes --try to be patient with yourself.  |
Whenever I think of stuffed animals, I almost start to cry. I had this dream over the summer where I was hugging a stuffed animal and saying "I love you so much" and I woke up crying. I have no idea why there is so much emotion behind stuffed animals in the dream and in the real world. Maybe it's because it wasn't a transitional object for me. They were replacement objects because my parents never comforted me. But regardless of that, I'd feel awkward asking her for one and the fact I asked might make me feel guilty if she complies.