Hi! I am new here, too. I have exactly the same problem as yours. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now but we have known each other online since April of this year, We love each other very much. He's a wonderful man and I also see a long term relationship with him. I only learned about his depression last september when he suddenly disappeared for 3 days, and wouldn't get into skype. I sent him a mail to which he explained to me everything and it actually took him the whole day just to finish the letter. We stayed that way for about 2 weeks. It wasn't that severe compared to what he went through early of this year. However, as I am writing this letter, he has disappeared again for 2 and half weeks now and with no communication at all. He tried to get online but didn't go farther. I knew it was coming because the last time we talked, he was so exhausted from his work and had no enough energy to have a long conversation with me. I am very confused although I am trying my best to cope. I have been searching for answers which was why I landed on this forum. I feel so helpless. We are world's apart and I can't do anything about it except wait for him to come around. I send him mails just to let him know that I am still here lest he worries that I will leave. I miss him so much but letting him know that will only make him more depressed, I think. So, I am learning along the way but I also need support to help me get through.