Can you find someone who has more than 3 years of training? It seems like you keep running into counselor-type ts who are not trained in depth psychodynamic psychotherapy and cannot handle the slightest bit of transference. Their training pretty much commands them to hand off a client to someone else if it becomes too much for them, but you can't keep repeating your first year of therapy over and over - it's really not fair to you. It's not you, it's them.