She came home yesterday, crying and apologizing for not coming home sooner. You all have to know that when we're not in a fight like this, life is fantastic. I was going thru texts to see how I talk to her while keeping the right perspective, and just a week and a half ago we were talking about how we're the "dream team" in life and as parents. We don't always have these arguments, but i'm realizing that when they happen it's my fault, not because of something she's doing or not doing.

From what I can figure out on my own, I have a tendency to become full of self pity, and then turn into a narcissistic ***** about every couple of months. I think that's the root of my problem.

When I was giving you all the story, I was trying to give you the facts pertaining to the situation, but I was also drinking.

I've come to realize that I most likely have a drinking problem. And I should mention that when I was a freshmen in college I failed all of my classes but 1 so my mom took me to a therapist to did a bunch of tests over a couple of days and I was diagnosed with severe adult ADD. I wasn't interested in the treatment and basically told my parents goodbye and took off on my own. I got maybe 25 credits under my belt somehow over 5 years but never graduated.

I don't think i've revealed this yet because i'm trying to maintain anonymity, but my wife is a school teacher. Between her and my mom they convinced me to go see a therapist for treatment of adult ADD. So I did and they put me on Bupropion for ADD. I know that's not typical but they did. I mentioned I'm self employed and I do IT work, and since I went on the bupropion (450mg) my business has thrived which actually really helped the marriage with the extra money.

That being said, I know i'm not supposed to drink on the bupropion, but I would anyway. My wife and I had a few arguments based on the fact that I would get absolutely ***** faced after just a couple of drinks and be an *****. So I minimized my drinking but never stopped, but never ended up being that drunk again until the night i joined this forum when she left.

So today my plan is to go in, and use the first several minutes telling the therapist the same story I told you all while explaining my medication and my drinking problem, and then talk with her and my wife to figure out how I can get help with my attitude, abusiveness, and alcohol abuse. And maybe figure out how to at least keep the 10% of our bad times to a minimal and not be such a ridiculous individual. Is that a good plan?

Since my wife is going with me, should I let her and the therapist do most of the talking? should I jump right in to all my problems or should i focus on the issues at hand and how to help my wife feel better today, and then have a session where I go into all of my issues with the therapist by myself? There's so much to talk about and so much to figure out and i'm not sure how i'll handle it. Will the therapist know how to handle it and ask the right questions? How does this work?