I do not know… Hope I will not be fired from here for saying what I am saying but I am 100 % with you. This friend that got offended because you asked her not to mention vomiting, come on! Chemo is not a simple headache or food poisoning! And you are the one that is self-centered? Where is her brain? While I lived in the US what stroke me more was how people had become egotistic, everyone had a program they could not alter for you or anyone, ever, of course with the exemption of very few people I had the pleasure to meet. Of course, I was in the capital city, people used to tell me that in the country side still you can find more solidarity and community embrace. OK, after more than 10 years I came back to my country, and, guess what? people are becoming more and more like I saw in the US. This is not acceptable to me. I thank that you have these 2 good friends. I hope when you get better you will not lose your faith in humanity and will do something to change this situation. It is not just your group of friends. It is something that is happening in our society, in our world. When I had my car accident, many years ago, I had many helping hands, even from people that I barely knew. We were poorer, but the majority of people were used to giving their time and goods with generosity, beyond what fitted their schedules or budgets. Reciprocally, my family (and I) were inclined to help others. We counted on each other in our neighborhood and group of friends. Even 15 years ago, when my father got very sick, several friends took turns to go to the hospital, do grocery, do cleaning, etc for months. That was invaluable.Even just recently that my mom was sick and passed away, people are helping, because here in my country I am related to a group of people that are very focused on community building, etc. (but I can see what is going on in general and it is becoming similar to your experience for many.). I wish you the best and please, keep posting