This is what happened in my session with T2 about having to stop therapy...

So when I first walked in she asked how I was and then said it had been a while...I had to cancel last week because my H didn't get home from picking up my older son from XC practice on time but I had also canceled the week before.... So she asked what happened and I said well that's a good way to say what I needed to tell you. I had to cancel my appt because I didn't have the money.... And I'm going to need to stop therapy with you because I can't afford it and see someone through insurance... Because I don't have out of network benefits... She said she understood... I told her I met with someone at her old employer.... She thought it was interesting I picked a young male...I said I liked his profile...

She asked if I was satisfied...I said it was too early to know...said picking a t is a little like Russian roulette...

So she asked if there was other reasons I was leaving? I said no really just the money..she asked if I was comfortable with her and I said I was and that I always felt I could be honest.We talked about how far I've come and I talked about how much I've learned and listed all these things she's helped me with... She said I had really grown and that I was committed and then she said..that we have been together for quite some time and that she cares for me and knows how difficult it can be to changed Ts.... then she said...

That if I wanted to stay she would be willing to see me for the cost of my copayment. I must have made a face because she said I guess I surprised you. And I just nodded. She said that she has a certain number of slots open for this and she wouldn't offer if she didn't want to.. And that when I was able to pay more, that I could let her know and we would adjust from there..

And then she said that she knows that it would be hard for me to do because I like to be feircely independent. Mentioning how I don't let my h carry in groceries...she said that if the $ is truly the only reason then it would be good for me to allow her to do this for me to see that it's okay to have a healthy interdependence....

At the end I made appt for next week to either be a wrap up session or regular and said I would text her in advance to let her know which...

I actually cried all the way home .... because she cared enough to offer that...

(keep in mind my T is usually very even keel...almost emotionless... so for her to say that much or talk about "us" or mention anything she thinks is very very rare)

I'll post another excerpt from the next session that was so upsetting if anyone reads this far.

ETA: read my next post too