I think I would have told the therapist if I thought it felt shaming and told her what I heard her saying and asked if it was what she meant. But this is not the area in which I struggle, so maybe it is different. This would not have been a big deal to me because I would have wanted it all clarified and possibly I would have wanted it written down. I like to make sure I know what I am agreeing to.
And I never tell the therapist about any of my vacations as it is.