I just posted a few days ago (I think, it just seems like forever, lol), about my boyfriend and his dad's constant battles. They are draining me. I do not live with them. I only deal with it from afar, but it is draining me nevertheless. Let me recap for those of you that may have missed it....my bf, David, lives with his dad, Bob. Bob has always belittled David and yelled at him, and David never stood his ground, but it has gotten much worse recently. Now David cannot handle it, and is standing up for himself, I do not know if it is becuz I have told him he does not deserve to be treated with such disrespect and it is finally sinking in, but now David and Bob have constant battles. David now puts in as many hours at work as possible; Bob used to sleep at his gf's house, now he comes home and waits for David to come home and stays up just to fight with him. They have an all-out war. I know, David calls me and they are yelling and screaming, I ask, do you need to go and get this over with, he says, no, if I go, I am not sure what would happen.... This is unhealthy for both of them. Now the gf is getting involved. David makes excuses. I have told him to get out. He says, I don't make enough, well, I found a couple places I know very well he can afford. He says this will blow over in a couple days. It has been over 2 weeks now and it has not gotten better, if anything, it has gotten worse. David has been going to therapy 2x, but has stopped going. He has stopped communicating with me altogether. He has stopped telling me he loves me. I have no clue what is going on. I know something is very amiss with Bob, it could be abuse of prescription meds, a chemical imbalance in his brain, I really don't know. I am worried for David, he is in absolute denial. I can't help him and he won't help himself. Why is he now shutting me out??? I am the only person he said he has, his grandma died and his dad treats him like dirt, his mom walked out on him, I don't understand....I am hurt and confused. I don't try to interfere. I don't talk bad about his dad. Can anyone tell me what is happening here???? Do I need to just completely back off??? I have asked him what I should do and he will NOT tell me, he will not talk to me, I felt like we were moving forward, what is happening???? Can someone please inform me????? I am lost.....