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I can understand how you feel. It's really uncomfortable.
I think what she did was okay. I would ahve been uncomfortable, but I would have understood - although I might ahve doubled-checked*. A lot of people take advantage of situations - people who don't think they would. Or who don't even think taking an expensive vacation is taking advantage of things because they sooo need a vacation. So she wanted to be very clear about how this worked. I really do understand how hard it is. I imagine she might have found another way to say things more easily. But I really don't hear anything except a business person being clear about the new contract, which is often uncomfortable. Even the checkign in every few months, although perhaps that is more iffy. But it's not uncommon for someone to get a good deal like this, and then forget that's it's not the norm, and start spending money. I feel her care for you, but totally understand the last session didn't feel very caring.
*Maybe I would say something like: I hear you being very clear, and I hear you saying you trust me, but you say it so often I'm starting to wonder if you really do trust me.
and maybe I'd add: I want you to know I'm very appreciative, and I understand that X, y, z would be taking advantage. I won't do that to you.
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