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Originally Posted by BLUEDOVE
Why don't you talk to HER? Something like:" I wonder if you feel the same as me,that I might leave the group cause I worry you might tell the
people we both know?" What's to lose?
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
I would be uncomfortable too. But, sometimes if you can get pass the initial uncomfortable part, having someone you know, further along, can provide a new friend, someone supportive in a way you have not realized yet.
However, I can totally understand how it can be "too" uncomfortable. I think when these groups take place and someone "new" wants to join, it would be wise if the group was given to potential new member's name to make sure that this new member isn't going to trigger anyone who may know this new possible member. It is such a delicate subject and it is only fair to the members to help them feel comfortable in a group they have already been acclimating to.
(((Hugs)))
OE
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Thank you for replying. We keep everything on first names only. I wish they could find someway to check and see if anyone knows one another. We are not to have any contact outside of the group, which is why I wouldn't be able to address her directly. I'm going to try to voice my concerns at the next meeting and hope that will help things. She (the new member) has already stated that she has no problems with us knowing each other. I was never really asked if I was okay with it.