I am going through a similar situation My boyfriend says that it's all about the meds and the company gains all this money from ppl being misdiagnosed with things, but don't really have it. I was diagnosed about 7 years ago and I just was in denial. I have been getting therapy. Ya right! For about 12-13 years maybe. Off topic sorry

My boyfriend refuses to look into my BiPolar. He said another great person misdiagnosed. He said everyone has issues just others deal with it better. Well duh!!!I have BiPolar amongst other Disorders and he doesn't think I need meds or any help. He said I just need to take control of my life and my emotions not let things get to me so easily. I have several books and Info from online and he just ignores that they are even on my coffee table. I always pray that one day he will pick them up and read them and see what my life is all about inside. Rather then seeing my shell outside. I somewhat think he is in denial as well. I can't even talk about it because he doesn't believe it. He has never seen me without my meds before and one day I feel like not taking them so he can see what's it's like for me on a day to day basis. I know how I am or how I was as of 3 years ago before my meds became some what stable. I think that we would have stayed friends and nothing more.
My daughter has ADHD & Depression and possibly ASPERGERS. I don't believe that, but the Dr is still looking into this Dx. I deal with that on a daily basis as well. He refuses to believe that to. Just because she is an honor roll student doesn't mean that she doesn't have these Dx it just means that her meds are some what stable and she works well Academically. It's Emotionally and Socially that she has problems. He says shes fine she doesn't need anything to help her she just needs to learn to control herself.
He has seen her on a lower dose of meds and he complained because she was bouncing off the walls and what's wrong with her. Her P at the time was trying to lower adjust her dose do to her depression and she had a bad experience.
So all and all my B/F is the same way as your husband doesn't want to know about the Dx. I feel that he doesn't want to learn about me.
Like I said maybe one day he will pick up a book and see what myself and my daughter go through on a regular basis. You are not alone. Men deal differently then woman they do eventually want to know. It's just the question of WHEN???

Great books here: The Bipolar Child and Understanding Girls With AD/HD. These both helped me a lot

Thank you for sharing your story and letting me share mine
Jlove