Welcome to the forum lifelove

It sounds like you have got a sticky situation here. I hope you will make the right decision for yourself and especially your children too. A lot of times I think us women need the men to be more emotionally in tune with us, but unfortunately that's not the case. It is also often that by the time they realize what is going on, it's too late.

We cannot expect to have them guessing what we want, therefore communication is very important. Unless you have tried several attempts and despite after a long period of time trying, he just simply doesn't care, then perhaps it's time to re evaluate the situation. Your husband seems to finally click, perhaps he wasn't sure what was actually communicated to him to start off with?

Again it seems like you are in love with this new man, but are you really in love or it's just because you are receiving the attention that you were deprived from your husband?

It's a difficult time I hope that you will finally figure it all out soon enough.