I have reread your postings and you appear to try and put your behaviour down to every other thing that you possibly can........cheating on your wife as it was her fault she was not servicing your needs.........your postings and then blaming ADD and alcohol for them......really you not accept any of your behaviour as being YOUR OWN....you continue to try to either make someone else responsible for it or alcohol or ADD........really you need to work on yourself with the therapist........sadly your wife needs the therapist to work on the fallout from your behaviour.......if your are damn lucky she may continue a relationship with you as co-parent of your child......as for continue to have a marriage and a loving relationship.....I think you will just have to wait for her to work out if you are worth that kind of investment.