(((Ready)))
yea, it would bug me a lot. Like you, I am a self sufficient woman, and it would be extremely hard for me to accept any sort of "charity". I do understand that she had to make the boundaries around it clear. I am not sure she was trying to shame you, but none the less, you felt shamed. Perhaps just stick with YT for a while. You won't have that money issue hanging over your head. Even in the best of circumstances you would always be thinking "did she do this because I don't pay full price?" I know that's what I would think. I don't think that you would be able to "give yourself a break" and accept the financial help (even though you totally deserve it).

Sorry you were hurt. That sux.