Mentally understand something is the beginning because the emotions are there, the other parts carry those feelings for you. You needed that in the past, so you could survive. You had a 'horrible' moment but also a healthy reaction on a situation that triggered old feelings. When you were younger you needed support, but you didnt get support. Why tell yourself that you can not feel what you felt in this situation? Why not accept these feelings and handle them with compassion? It's not that you feel that, that girl no support deserves. It is about what you had to miss, if you push that away you dont allow yourself and other parts time and space to heal.

I also have trouble with that kind of feelings, I myself had almost no negative feelings and was not allowed to think negatively, which is impossible. There are situations where we are not able to remain always positive. In those situations, i started to switch. Now i work with my parts in therapy, I'm starting to experience other emotions, such as anger, jealousy, blame etc. And I can tell you that I did not like it!! It felt awful, I felt terrible about myself. Even though I knew that it belongs to integration.

My T asked me then the next thing, if I could stand still with my youngest part, her vulnerability, her desire, and by what she needs. She needs what i did not get, she needs support, protection, attention etc. Every time I reject certain emotions or dismiss feelings of jealousy, I deny her, my youngest part. To view it in this way helps me to look 'softer' to myself.