Boy how I can relate. I left an old crowd a few years ago to get on with my life. There's one girl I keep in touch with because she's got a level head, but we don't have very often. I agree with an earlier comment that friendships are not marraiges. You've made a life-long commitment to your husband, not this girl. Sure she may be hurting right now, but I'm sure it'll pass. Sometimes we have to be selfish to take care of ourselves. Just this weekend I saw something in a friend of mine that doesn't sit well. For my sanity, I'm pulling away. Let go with love, but don't abandon with disgust. It's OK to take care of you!!