Wow, as a woman, I definetly wouldn't suggest "intimacy without emotion". I've been there done that, thinking not getting involved would be my answer. But just getting "physical" with "friends" ripped me apart, and now I struggle with intimacy issues in my relationship. Like Perna said, there's nothing wrong with needing people. I think most of us like to have friends and relationships. It sounds to me like you know you don't NEED a man, since you've been happy with your horse for years. I took some time to myself with just my cat and it was great! When it was time to get into a relationship again, I was ready. Why not go on a few dates with this guy and see how you feel? Nothing is permanent unless you marry him. =) Sometimes fear is so so hard for us to walk through that we prefer not to do it. But sometimes, walking through the fear leads us to happiness we never thought possible. If I was in your situation, I'd date this guy, but sex would have to wait, no matter how much I might want it. I got back together with my ex boyfriend, but I told him I needed a "dating" period. There was no intimacy for about two and a half months, even though we had been serious before. I needed that period to be sure it was a relationship not based on sex. I'm so glad I made myself wait until I was ready, not did it just because that's what I thought he wanted. Above all, just find out what it is that you want for yourself, and if he fits the mold, great. If not, move on. Continue being the strong woman you've been and the ultra co-dependence won't sink in. =)

~Rayna