While he's certainly entitled to his misconceptions on the definition of cheating, the truth is, it's entirely unfair. Although you may not believe in the bible, I believe the part that says "he who is free of sin, cast the first stone" applies here. I mean there isn't anyone, not a single person that doesn't have a past of their own and I guarantee his isn't blemish free. I'm sorry but this guy seems to me like a controlling, judgemental and arrogant [word redacted].

No matter how you look at it, no matter what you did, it was before him and how do you cheat on a man if you aren't even yet with him? WTF? He is completely in lala land here to be completely honest with you and two things. If he truly believes this way, then he's way to twisted to even expect a healthy relationship from and if he doesn't believe it, he's making excuses to not commit to you. Perhaps because he is not wanting to attach to ONE girl? (not that far off based on his statements and actions actually) Either way I don't see a good outcome.

You're not guilt free in regards to your life, but neither am I and neither is he. but none of that past failure should at all affect him. People grow, people change and we all make mistakes along the way. There is no winning here, you can't change the past, so his 'getting over it' is something I see as an ongoing problem til he deals with reality and comes face to face with it.

You can find a better guy. Trust me.