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Originally Posted by Readytostop
I sent T a card and thanked her for everything and for our discussion we had before she made the offer of reduced fees. We discussed what growth she thought she saw and I discussed what I had learned from our time together... and she even talked about what she hoped I would keep working on etc... But I told her after the last session, I decided I couldn't accept the offer. And since I had paid her the reduced fee for the session, I sent her a check for the remaining amount of the session fee. I thought it would be over...
She called but I never answer her calls and she even said I know you don't like the phone but its too much to text... She just said that we had an agreement and that she is going to void out the check... That she will leave the door open if I should change my mind...
It made me angry that she didn't just deposit the check.
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While I do think your T didn't handle that second session very well, and was very likely putting her own stuff in the room, I have to say I have *more* respect for her for having voided the check. She did make a promise, and she is sticking to her word. I'm sorry it makes you so angry -- but would it really have helped you if she had gone back on her word, and taken the money... in any way other than proving to you that she was untrustworthy?
I know you have a hard time telling people what you are feeling, and that this is why you're in therapy... so might it not make sense to go back to therapy (with this T) for just one session, to tell her how you felt? (or on the phone, but like you, I hate the phone, so I get why this wouldn't be preferable.) I know it is far easier said than done. But if this is really something you want to change about yourself, it might be worth considering trying it out, instead of resigning yourself to a certain way of handling conflict.