I try to let myself go with the flow of emotions, rather than trying to stem the tide. If I feel sad, or cry, I don't try to distract myself out of it, or try to feel better right away. I let myself grieve in the moment.

I am also trying to make healthy choices regarding food, sleep, getting out of the house, connecting with friends, etc. I like to crochet, so have decided to crochet some realistic-looking orchids. My therapist raised orchids in his office, and it's one way I can honor him. Plus, it's less work than trying to keep a real plant.

I set aside one day a week that is my day to grieve. I try to keep that day free of other obligations, so that I can allow myself to think about him, cry, laugh, journal, swear, nap, pray, or whatever I feel like in that moment. And if the tears or sadness come at other times during the week, I let them come.

I also read quotes from others who have experienced grief. I find myself writing them down, and plan to put them in a "memorial book" at some point. One I found especially touching is, "How blessed I am to have known someone who is so hard to say good-bye to." I hope you are able to find what works for you. You have my hugs, and my empathy.