I don't really know what particular issue has inspired this. I can see the rationale for keeping conflict off the main boards but I can also see the rationale for people wanting to deal with the conflict on the boards rather than by PM.
Why?
There really are quite a few people with mental health problems out there who also have trouble with conflict resolution. It can feel safer to try and sort it on the boards because people seem to be more civil on the boards than they are via PM and because moderators will step in if things turn nasty.
While it would be nice if one could just ignore conflict some people just aren't able to repress / dissociate from it...
I dunno. Just my 2 cents worth on why I personally struggle with the thought that conflict can be adequately dealt with by personal message. I tried this once and it ended up with me putting the person on ignore because there was no other way for me to prevent them PMing me messages that I found to be personally attacking (and asking them not to PM me didn't work).
Dunno.
My opinion for what it is worth.
NOTE:
I'm not meaning to continue this on or criticise the way things are done here.
NOTE:
I'm also not meaning to continue the conflict. I've managed to dissociate from it fine now. Sometimes some time apart from it can give one some objectivity and perspective and can lessen the intensity of the feelings.
Owning ones own feelings as ones feelings... Everybodies feelings are valid... Everybodies perceptions are valid... Coming to a neutral description of events that enables everybody to retain their dignity...
I wish I was better at this...
Maybe an expert on conflict resolution? It would be nice to figure how to do it properly...
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