Thanks, that helps. There was a moment this week where I was very upset and jealous, seeing a little girl and her mom going in for therapy. I was so ashamed of feeling anger toward her, but talked it through with my counselor today. She helped me reframe it, which helps. The truth is that seeing the little girl and her mom triggered those feelings in me. The feelings aren't directed to either of them, or even because of either of them. She reminded me of everythign I missed, and brought up the pain of being that age, with no hope or support.

Looking at it that way makes me feel much better, and is very logical. Of course I feel badly about what happened, and of course I would feel that hurt because I am still trying to process it.

You're right about the refection of emotions. It's what people have done my whole life, and I need to be careful about realizing those emotions. Realizing what they're actually about helps, too.

Thanks, Bloem, that really helps!!

IJ