I never said anyone else was doing the 'very expensive conversation' if you'll re-read what I wrote. For me, this is what works. I'm sorry if you feel upset by what I wrote, but I wasn't commenting on you and your sessions, nor anyone elses. I didn't realize it would be offending someone for me to comment on my own experience.

I will clarify, so that it is clear I mean only myself:
I asked how therapy works unless you use what you learn in your life. That is still true, even if you think the work is being done in therapy. Your new attitiudes, ways of thinking, realizations, etc will change your everyday situations. the work may be done in session, but you will still use the work done in session in your daily life. My point in writing that was to illustrate that any work you do, you use in real life.

the next point was that my 'homework' as someone labelled it, is just that. Ways to use what I'm learning in session, in real life. It may be actual skills, it may be new ways of thinking. For me, this makes my sessions meaninful, to see that what I'm doing in therapy makes a difference in my life. Not anyone else's life. Mine. For me, the system we have works. I have no idea what works or doesnt work for others, I'm only commenting on my personal experience.

Lastly, I mentioned that it helped ME feel that I am not just going in for expensive conversation or vent session. This is a personal feeling, that if there are not a lot of ways to use the skills for MY issues, it would feel like all talk, without skills building (my personal reason for utilizing therapy at the moment).

These are my personal feelings about my work. Again, I am sorry if you felt it was a personal attack on yourself, or anyone other than me and my experiences. That was not my intention.