My 14 year old was recently diagnosed with ADHD, inattentive type.

She continues to rely upon me for managing her life.

Now that she's 14, I expected that she would have become more independent.
I have to tell her to take a shower, brush her teeth, etc.
I have to remind her to be ready on time whether it's for school or other activities. It's like she doesn't think for herself, instead she just waits for instructions on what to do.

What's worse, she shows very little interest in trying to help herself.

I've talked to her about using different time management systems. I've talked to her about using lists or using her android phone to remind herself of important things.

People have told me to let her learn from experience, let her fall a few times and she will learn. Problem is, she has fallen, several times and she still hasn't learned. Also, reward/punishment has not worked.

I worry about what kind of a future she will have as an adult.

I don't know if this is her ADHD or something else.