I'm sorry that people tell you those things. It really hurts to hear them, especially when they're coming from people you care about. My mom once said something like that to me. I don't think she meant it the way it came out, but that didn't stop it from hurting. None of it is true. You can do things to try to help, but you can't just snap out of it. None of us asked for this, and we can't just get over it one day.

Depression is different for everyone, I find. While many of the core symptoms are similar or the same, everyone experiences it differently. I have two depressions. In one, I'm filled with extreme sorrow. I can't stop crying, I feel everything is hopeless, I feel like no matter what I do I'll always be this way. Then, there's the apathetic depression. During these episodes, I can't get out of bed, I want to sleep all day, I isolate heavily, I don't want to leave the house, I can't even be bothered to cry, everything becomes boring, and I don't have any motivation left. I consider these episodes worse than the others because once I'm out of them, I realize I haven't done schoolwork in a week or haven't showered in a week or forgot to change the bedding in my hamster's tank. I, also, isolate which leads me into the sorrow again.

Hobbies can help for many people. I agree with the others. Maybe you could consider one. Writing helps me. It gives me a form of escape that I've never been able to find elsewhere and is the one thing I can do no matter what kind of episode I'm in.