Hey pal,

The residents here have made many great points of what steps to take. I have been in your situation and I am so glad I left my fiancee of four years. It was hard to do at first, but getting away helped everything. I decided to go on an exchange trip instead. The only apspect appealing about our relationship was the comfort of knowing it was there along with the misery. I was secure knowing I had a miserable realtionship to go home to every night. Finding the love of your life should not be about making a hard decision of which one. If you feel you are having to chose between the lessser of two evils, then take some time off. I was engaged to this guy for 4 years, went away for a while and didn't miss him once I left. I met the most wonderful person and married him 11 months from the day we met. It has been almost 7 years now and we have the best relationship that I could never have imagined. Another question you need to ask yourself is would you want your kids to be just like this girl(s)? That was the impetus I needed to leaving my first love. If I had wanted kids at the time, I would never want them to turn out like my first fiancee. Make a list of everything you want in your dreamgirl, how does that comapre to what you have now?