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Old Nov 24, 2013, 04:29 PM
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Originally Posted by Imalooney View Post
He's in that angry place again. Anything sets him off. He yells and gets in my face pointing and grinding his teeth. Of course he says I drive him crazy, that I make him this way. He will keep going on and on. Saying that I'm making a big deal and I'm fighting when I'm just sitting there. Trying not to cry or argue back or yell. (Which is what I do 90% of the time). I'm trying to own my actions and how they contribute to the problem. So this morning I keep trying to defuse him. Let's stop. Please.
He just can't bring himself back down. I know he doesnt like this. Hes clearly uncomfortable. Yet he doesn't do much to get help or something. In the moment there is no reasoning with him but I always try.
He threatens to get loud and he's leaving and I do this on purpose.
I hate this person he becomes. I hate that I keep hoping things will change. I hate what he's doing to me with this behavior. Its so freaking triggering and I fight to keep it together everytime.

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If you, are trying to own your actions, then it sounds like you are working through your own side.

Is he currently, in therapy? There's absolutely no way, that YOU, MAKE him "yells and gets in my face pointing and grinding his teeth."

Sorry, you are going through this. How long, have you two, been together?