I'm analytical & Bi-Polar. Several years ago I was having a Bi-Polar communication problem with my husband. I got frustrated & used the phrase "Can you understand me now." I even said it in Polish to see if that made an impact! We never got the situation settled. My feelings got very hurt & my husband left. I cried for several hours while doing some housework.

He came back with some jewelry. I felt like he was trying to bribe me with my favorite things in the world. He brought some earrings & a necklace.

I can't stand the necklace. It's beautiful but I can't look at without it reminding me of my hurt. It's one of those necklaces that you wear & the conversation goes like this:
"That's a lovely necklace."
"Thank you, my husband gave that to me."
"He must love you a lot."
"Thanks."

What I want to say is:
"That's a lovely necklace."
"Thanks, the jerk bought this for me as a bribe for hurting my feelings."

I told him that I thought he was bribing me & to take it back. He said he just wanted to make me happy & show me that he loved me. I wore it once to make him happy. I hate it every time I look at it & decided to never wear it again. I was so upset that I almost threw it into the trash!

Anyway, to the question at hand. One of my favorite rescues is having an auction. I know that the necklace would get a high price for the rescue. I want to donate it, but I don't want my husband to find out. I feel guilty if he ever found out but I think the rescue should have it. This way I'd never have to look at it ever again, make money for the rescue & someone else would appreciate it.

The auction starts Nov 26th, & I don't have much time to do this.

Anyone please weigh on this.