I am so sorry you are not getting answers or closure either. It sounds like the best you can get out of his parents is that he is depressed so they may not know his real reasoning either.

Men "running from responsibility" leaving women to single parent has been a huge problem, so it isn't just "you" being challenged with this. I think many males in our society don't have a sense of responsibility, even have low self esteem and unfortunately they get so they panic at the thought of anything that might somehow
actually require them to grow up and commit.

I think that women don't realize what "love" means to some men either. I think many men themselves are also confused about "love" too. I think many of them only "love the attention and admiration they are receiving" and when that is threatened and they are exposed to another female that fills that need for them that becomes their priority. It has nothing to do with "your worthiness or your looks or being desirable either", it is all about "his selfish need" and I don't think "he" is really "aware" of that himself.

If you think about it, there were clues present In your relationship with this guy. You took him in, gave him love, provided work for him and he received care and messages of "you are worthy and I will love and take care of you". He was never really "ready" for being the person who "takes care of and provides for" and he just "ran" away in fear. He is depressed because he doesn't "really" understand it himself either. He isn't responding because he doesn't even know what to say to you or even his parents. His parents don't even know what to say to you and I think they are embarrassed.

If you don't mind my asking how old are you and how old is this guy?

OE