hmmm...

Okay, positives - WELCOME. Sounds like you are dealing with quite a lot, and you seem to be doing pretty well (all things considered).

Negatives - Sounds like hubby has some serious issues. Not qualified to say exactly what they all are. My *guess* (which is worth not much) is that he is frustrated that his lot in life has turned out less than what he expected and rather than use it to motivate himself - he is taking it out on you and the kids. That is wrong (obviously).

I hope you and your hubby can work through these things, but both of you have to be willing to WORK on it for it to work. I hope that I am wrong - but it sounds like he does not really want it to work. So he is making it impossible for it to work with the subconscious goal that you will end the marriage (so he can "blame you" for quitting, when in fact - reality is quite different).

Sincerely - best wishes to you. I hope things work out. BUT - if they do not.... do not be too afraid. I promise you that a young lady, with a pretty smile is attractive to many men. And the kids can be a plus as well. If your hubby can not see the gift he has been given - I promise you that there are other good men who would cherish that gift.