Hi Annie, That is so true! That is exactly how it's been for me also. I felt and still do feel shame about this and found/find it so hard to talk about, to have to Tell T my feelings toward her. I just start with 1 small thing to tell her and go from there. I wish I could just say it once and the shame be removed, but its not like that, it takes time, but each time I have revealed a bit more of my "child" and seen T's kind and compassionate response, the more courage builds for me to reveal a bit more another time. Baby steps is best for permenant change,.