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Originally Posted by sharpie1
New to this site, really helpful and some great blog posts by very smart people in the relationship section. I feel uneasy about all the threads here. I hate the word 'cheat' because I actually do not believe humans are monogamous. Family is such a wonderful things, so I think this is why it is worthy to keep that in tact....but I just dont think our current construct of society is ideal.
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The idea as you put it seems to assume that monagamy is something that should come natural? It isn't, it's a choice and a decision to make every day with your partner, wife, gf etc. Cheating is in the context of two people making a comitment to one another, and then one of them breaking the deal by going outside the relationship. "Humans" as you put it, for the most part can all fail in this way if they let themselves, this is true but it's not necessarily a good thing, even if one assumes it is natural (which I don't) to do so.
So if we look at it as making a commitment and breaking it, it is indeed a good term to use, that is, "cheating". If one wants to have multiple partners, I won't pass judgement but I will pass judgement on those that make a promise to be exclusive and then doing otherwise.